Earlier today I was reading a book by one of my favorite authors, Heather Lindsey, when I had this amazing revelation. The Holy Spirit tends to to that sometimes while I’m reading and then I have this aha moment that sometimes almost always leads into another aha moment somewhere along the line. She said in her book referring to she and her husband, “We are one flesh. My focus is pleasing mybody and my husband is one with me. Heather Canter died when she took the name of Heather Lindsey. What if I would have given it to God but picked it back up again and started a fight.”
In Ephesians 5:22-33 the Bible goes through in detail how wives are to submit to their husbands and husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Now when Heather said this it suddenly hit me. As women, when we take on our husbands name it signifies to the rest of the world that we are no longer two separate people, but we have now come together as one body. I have seen many times where women will get married and hyphenate their names. Hyphenating a name can simply mean that you have yet to fully surrender your identity from becoming two to now being one. You may be someone who has trouble submitting to your husband because you were so bent on keeping your identity separate from your husband even though you took his name and you might be saying I hyphenated it so that is good enough. So many women dream of taking on a man’s last name, but did you count the cost before the ring and realize that the two have now become one. Now I am not saying this to condemn those who are married and have hyphenated their names, but man that is something powerful to me. We are no longer representing ourselves but the man we are married to. Each time we go out we are carrying his name with pride and saying in the words of Song of Solomon 6:3, “I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.” Just like we represent our husband who loves us as Christ loves the church we are to feel the same way when we go out into the world and represent the Father.
This morning I went out of my dorm room and I wore what I wear most days, long leggings or jeggings with a long shirt and a denim shirt tied around my waist. When I left my room there was a check in my spirit. I thought I was crazy at first, but while reading this book I suddenly got checked again when I saw how Heather was talking about when she would try to go out with her husband with her hair pinned up and not really placing much effort into how she looked. Needless to say I went back to my room and changed my clothes. We truly are a representation of the name that we take on. I myself am not yet married, but I know those words of Song of Solomon 6:3 reign deeply in my heart. Isaiah 54:5 says, “For your Maker is your husband– the LORD Almighty is his name– the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.” I am representing my husband whether I am married in this realm or not. I represent Him. Therefore what I wear should always be modest in appearance even if I don’t think anyone is paying attention to my outfit. I cannot continue to represent the Father in the way that I have because in this walk there is a standard to be held. In the same way that the Bible asks wives to submit to their earthly husbands, we must learn to submit to our husband in heaven. When we accept Christ as our Savior from then on it becomes a daily dying to self. The same way we must die to ourselves in our marriage and recognize that I has now become we, we must recognize that I have also now become we with God. I just want to share this with you all to just be mindful of who it is you are representing today. Is what you are wearing representing Christ? Have two become one? Are you presenting yourself truly as the bride of Christ or are you representing yourself as you?
Love you all dearly,